Father’s Are More Important Than Society Thinks

I watched a video called, “All Dads are Heroes,” and in the video there were a bunch of dads doing lifesaving things for their kids. I was thinking, “wow, these guys are amazing”. Then I looked at the comments, and it saddened me. Some of the comments were positive, but most were bashing dads and men in general. Even the positive comments were saying that they wouldn’t call these dads heroes, but just some great dads. 

         In today’s culture, we are totally mixed up. Instead of calling these men heroes, who have saved their children time and time again, we would rather call Katyln Jenner a hero for changing sexes?

Let’s break it down. The definition of a hero is “a person who is admired or idealized for courage, outstanding achievements, or noble qualities.”  There are quite a few men who I admire for their achievements in life:  my dad, my father-in-law, my husband, my brothers-in-law. I admire them for being men who are godly and will lead their families in the way of God even through the roughest of times.

Do you know how hard it is to do what’s right and how hard it is to lead a family in the way of God? Especially in today’s time when a lot of women are calling men babies, weaklings and worthless. To me, these men in my life who have, despite all the odds, risen up and led their families though being called idiots, are heroes. They are heroes because they have shown me what men are supposed to be and how they are supposed to act. 

         I can’t watch some TV shows because many of them portray the man of the house as being stupid with no clue as to what’s going on, but the woman is portrayed as an amazing person who has it all together. I have to turn those shows off because they annoy me so badly. Over the years, we have told men that they are nothing and can be nothing and that women are amazing and can do anything they set their minds to. That women are better than men. So men started believing that lie and have stopped trying. And all you little girls have grown up with that lie as well and now think men are dumb and worthless.

Women are also saying they can’t find a good man anymore. Well, ladies, you put that on yourselves! You have bashed men into thinking they are worthless so they have started acting worthless.  Men have had all incentive to be responsible and accountable taken from them.

  I know a few marriages now that have been having trouble. Interestingly the main individuals that want to keep going in the marriage and work on it are the men!!! The women give up and don’t even want to try! Women think they are so great and they believe the lie that they are better than men.  I am so thankful that the men in my life have not believed that lie. I’m not saying that men are better than women and I’m not saying women are better than men. We are equal and complementary.

I am a homeschooling, stay-at-home mom. The men in my life have not made me do that, it was MY choice. I love raising and homeschooling my kids.  Is it easy? No, it’s not easy at all but I chose this.  I used to have an out-of-the-home job and I was miserable and hated every minute of it. Now, I actually am fulfilled. I love taking care of my husband and kids. I know not all women are like me. Not all women can stay home and be fulfilled like I am. But we now have women in the work force telling women who stay home that they are stupid for staying home and we should never stay home. I can tell you right now though that this was my choice.  If I wanted a job outside the home my husband would support me in that.  But he knows that I love being at home and loving on my kids and doing my best to try to raise them the right way. 

Women need men, and men need women. So, stop downing the other sex.  Men are better at some things than women, and women are better at some things than men — we even each other out. We help each other. At least that’s what we are supposed to do. 

My husband and I have been married for almost 12 years now. We love each other more today than when we first got married. We both have to work on our marriage though. People today want an easy marriage. I’m here to tell you, marriage is not easy. My husband is one of the best men I’ve ever known. Though we have had our differences, we have worked through them. But ladies, he cannot read my mind, and I cannot read his! I have to tell him things and he has to tell me things. Our minds do not work the same way for a reason. We have to think differently, so we can get solutions to things.  Sometimes I have a better way of doing things than his, and sometimes his way is better than mine. But we have to tell each other what we are thinking. There is no way around that unless you want to misunderstand each other constantly (that will easily lead to divorce). Communicate on everything! I don’t care how small that something seems. Since I’m a stay-at-home mom, when he comes home from work discouraged I can encourage him because I’m not worn out by other people.  When I’m worn out at home, he can encourage me because he’s not worn out over the same things I am. The Lord made us different for many reasons, and He made men want to be protectors and providers, so let them do that. Encourage them in that area!  We need to help our men be men instead of little boys their whole lives. We need to lift each other up instead of tearing each other down. 

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It’s no secret that in American society men are devalued.  Women are lifted up, and give themselves parades and marches and they scream about equal wages, and equality in all things.   I would venture to say that not one of these screaming women are happy.  They have reordered the very laws of nature, and are standing in opposition to God’s laws.  They have everything they want, and yet that is not enough.  They will never reach fulfillment in life by trying to lift themselves up.   They need to realize that God’s ways are ordered in his word, and only by following scripture can they have true satisfaction.

Real men are still in existence today, but they are becoming fewer and farther between.  Real men work hard to provide for, to protect, and to model the path of godly living for their families.  I know that there are deadbeat dads out there, and I admire women who are raising families for Christ even in the midst of that type of tragedy.  But all of my single mama friends who work extremely hard to be both mother and father to their children will readily admit that this is not a path they would have chosen, nor is it a path they would recommend.  

Any moron can father a child, but it takes a real hero to be a Dad.  I don’t know how my husband manages to do all the things he does to care for my family, and I admire him for working so hard to show his family how to follow Christ.  I don’t tell him enough how valued he is.  My own Father worked a job he did not enjoy to provide for us for years, and still he came home and led our family every day.  He was a steady leader in our home.   We never questioned his love or devotion to us.  He still is a rock in our lives, and we know that if we need anything he will be there to lean on.

Satan knows that if he can tear apart homes, and rip apart our families then he will have easier access to our children.  He wants to deconstruct the societal norm for the definition of family and he has done a masterful job of this.  

When my husband and I were engaged we went to pre-marital counseling with our Pastor at the time.  I read many books on marriage, and I went into it with my eyes wide open to the fact that we were two imperfect people coming together to form one.  I would need to follow God’s plan for marriage to make it work.  The best verse our Pastor brought out to us, and the one I have never forgotten when thinking of marriage is Ecclesiastes 4:12  And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.  When something feels wrong in your home remember to put Christ at the center.  With him at the center; Dads, Moms, and then children will be stronger.

Love, honor, cherish, and obey are a part of traditional wedding vows for a reason.  They aren’t just words uttered to sound pretty.   Celebrate the Father’s in your life, and be thankful for the strength and stability they provide.      

GA